Separation is not an isolated event but a process that unfolds over time. The longer a relationship has lasted the longer it may take to let go and move on.
In most cases, it is in the best interest of the child to have a close, stable, and ongoing relationship with both parents whenever possible. Sometimes however this is not possible. When it is possible for both parents to maintain a close relationship with their child the child benefits greatly.
Having both parents involved:
- Improves the child’s emotional wellbeing and recovery from the separation.
- Aids in the child’s healthy emotional development.
- Helps a child from feeling divided loyalties
- Lessens any guilt they may feel
- Helps maintain parental authority for the child.
- Promotes parental willingness to provide financial support for the child.
- Gives the child an opportunity to develop an extended family identity.
- Demonstrates that parents can put aside personal differences enough to unite around parenting.
Reassuring your child that it is not their fault and both mum and dad still love them and will continue to be there for them can also help.