Managing Christmas Stress

 

Christmas can be a wonderful time of year filled with lots of celebrations and fun for families, but it can also be very stressful for many parents. Parents can feel the pressure of managing their children’s expectations alongside managing the financial stresses that the time of year brings.

Local parenting support charity Parenting NI say that the pressures of meeting children’s expectations, managing children’s behaviour and dealing with separation make this time of year really difficult for a lot of families in Northern Ireland. The charity is encouraging parents to seek support if they are finding they are struggling to cope over the festive period.

Chief Executive at Parenting NI, Charlene Brooks said,

“There are a number of things Parenting NI would encourage parents to do to try and limit the stresses and expense of the holiday period. Expectations around Christmas are often high with so many putting an emphasis on the ‘perfect’ family Christmas. We would suggest to parents, as difficult as this can be, to not to get drawn into what others are spending or doing and do what is right for your family. Try to plan by writing a list of everything you need and setting a budget, most importantly, try and stick to your budget.

“Talk to your children about the value of things and explain that it’s not all about getting presents, that Christmas time is a good time to spend together and make memories. Good communication is so important within a family, if you are feeling the pressure don’t be afraid to ask for help. The less stressed you are as a parent, the less stressed your children will feel.

Separation is another big issue for a lot of families Parenting NI support, for parents who don’t have access to their children over the festive period it is particularly distressing and isolating. Parents who are struggling in general and / or want support with managing separation over Christmas please get in touch with Parenting NI on freephone 0808 8010 722.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Parenting NI One of Belfast Lord Mayor’s Charities of the Year

Rt Hon Lord Mayor of Belfast, Councillor Nuala McAllister, supports Parenting NI Parents’ Week Campaign – Every Child is a Star.

Local parenting support charity, Parenting NI, launched Parents’ Week yesterday with an event in Belfast City Hall focusing on how parents can be support to help nurture the child’s mental health and resilience. 

Parenting NI are delighted to have the Mayor, Councillor Nuala McAllister’s support for the Week. Chief Executive of Parenting NI, Charlene Brooks said,

“We are delighted that Parenting NI has been chosen as one of the Lord Mayor of Belfast’s Charities of the Year. Parents’ Week is our biggest campaign in the year and this one is particularly significant as we know how concerned parents are about their children’s mental health. 

“It can often be difficult for parents to reach out for help and the more public support we have for valuing parenting will help reduce this stigma. That’s why it is fantastic to have Lord Mayor Nuala McAllister’s support which has been a great addition to awareness of the campaign and also to the charities ongoing work with parents.”

Lord Mayor Nuala McAllister said,

“I am delighted to have Parenting NI as one of my charities of the year and to support them with the Parents’ Week campaign. Any support which we can give to improve children’s resilience and mental health is vital. Parenting NI is providing an invaluable service to all parents by highlighting ways in which we can support our children and each other.”

Develop Your Child’s ‘Star’ Potential

Local Parenting Charity Encourages Parents To Develop Children’s ‘Star’ Potential

Parenting NI have launched their annual Parents’ Week campaign, which this year focuses on children’s emotional wellbeing and building their resilience.

Northern Ireland has an overall higher prevalence of mental ill health than the rest of the UK. This is a significant concern for parents, as if children and young people are experiencing poor mental health it makes it difficult for them to develop resilience which enables them to cope with the challenges life presents. Parenting NI has received 64 calls from concerned parents about mental health within their family in the past month alone.

The local charity’s campaign aims to highlight the importance of resilience to children’s emotional wellbeing, through the ‘Every Child is a Star’ campaign. All children have the potential to be resilient, however these skills need to be nurtured and strengthened. Parents play a vital role in promoting and supporting the building of resilience in their children.

As the Chief Executive of Parenting NI explained, “Resilience increases children’s ability to cope with the increasing pressures and stresses of modern life. We hear every day from parents of the challenges their children and young people are experiencing, for example bullying, parental separation, exam stress, pressures from social media and mental health concerns.

Research tells us that children with strong, supportive parental relationships are more likely to be more resilient. When you take this into consideration along with the pressures on mental health services, there is a clear need for parental support to ensure the best outcomes for children and young people.”

This year Parenting NI was chosen as one of the Lord Mayor of Belfast, Nuala McAllister’s charities of the year. The organisation is delighted to be able to host an event in Belfast City Hall to launch the week on Monday 23rd October. The Risk to Resilience event will see guest speaker Robin Balbernie, Consultant Child and Adolescent Psychotherapist, who will share his extensive knowledge and expertise on the topic with professionals working with families throughout Northern Ireland.

Speaking about the importance of acting early to improve outcomes for children, Guest speaker Robin Balbernie said, “Children who are treated with kindliness and thoughtfulness grow up to be adults who are kind and thoughtful towards others, and anything that gets in the way of that very simple process needs to be addressed. This is especially important during the first 1001 critical days, from conception to age two.”

Lord Mayor of Belfast, Councillor Nuala McAllister said, "I am delighted to offer Parenting NI my support and the use of City Hall for this event.

All of us, but particularly parents, are becoming more aware of the importance of mental health not just for children but adults too.

"Any support which we can give to improve resilience and mental health is vital. Parenting NI is providing an invaluable service to all parents by highlighting ways in which we can support our children and each other."

Parenting NI will host two large family events during the week, with activities for parents and their children exploring emotional wellbeing and information on family support. The organisation has also provided schools throughout Northern Ireland with resources to enable them to engage with parents and children on talking about emotions and building resilience. An online campaign will run throughout the week giving parents tips and information on improving communication, managing emotions and raising self-esteem to help them build resilience in their children.

Media Enquiries

Contact Emma Lyttle, Communications Officer at Parenting NI on 028 9031 0891 or email.

Parenting NI Welcome Scotland Ensuring Equal Protection for Children

Local parenting support charity Parenting NI has welcomed the news that Scottish government has backed proposals to give children equal protection from assault as adults under the law.

Charlene Brooks, CEO of Parenting NI said,

“We are delighted to hear the announcement that Scotland will be bringing about the legal change necessary to provide children with equal protection from assault.

Whilst it is fantastic news, it is also disappointing that children in the rest of the UK are not afforded the same protection. Parenting NI would be calling on local government to follow suit for children in Northern Ireland. Support for parents is imperative to ensuring the best outcomes for children and therefore this also needs to be high on the agenda alongside legal reform.

Parenting NI encourage parents to consider their options and use a positive parenting approach. Parents can contact our freephone helpline for support with managing challenging behaviour on 0808 8010 722 and access positive parenting tips via our website.”

Working Dads Talk Tactics

Leading local parenting organisation, Parenting NI, hosted its first ever 'working dads' networking event at Kingspan Stadium on Thursday 12th October.

The 'Talking Tactics' event held exclusively for dads was held in partnership with Kingsbridge Private Hospital (part of the 3fivetwo Group) and Bank of Ireland UK. Special guests included Ibe Sesay from Q Radio, Ireland and Ulster Rugby Captain and father of three, Rory Best and Ulster Rugby Operations Director and father of two, Bryn Cunningham.

Over 40 local businessmen had the opportunity to network with other professional working dads during the unique event, before sitting down to a delicious full Irish breakfast.

A Parenting Education Consultant also delivered information and advice including top tips on understanding children's behaviour, promoting self-esteem and tactics to achieve the balance between being a 'hands on' dad and holding down a stressful job.

As part of the interactive session, delegates got the opportunity to question a panel made-up of Rory Best, Mark Regan, CEO Kingsbridge Private Hospital and William Thompson, Head of Consumer Banking, Bank of Ireland UK, on their experiences of juggling fatherhood with work commitments and how they make precious time with their children and families count.

Event Organiser, Lucy McCusker said, "Evidence shows that many dads are striving to be more involved in their children's childcare and activities but can sometimes find it hard to make this goal a reality.

"For some working fathers, their employers are unsupportive of their goals to achieve a better work-life balance. This unique 'Talking Tactics' event allowed best practice to be shared amongst peers and showcased some positive approaches from employers and individual experiences. I really hope all dads leave the session feeling better able to achieve a healthy balance between fatherhood and career aspirations and demands."

Panellist Mark Regan, CEO at Kingsbridge Private Hospital, part of the 3fivetwo Group emphasised that giving staff flexibility is key. He said,

"I'm a firm believer of 'give and take'. If one of my team needs to take a few hours off for a school play or if their child is unwell and they need to work from home, I know I get this time back and more", said Mark.

William Thompson, Head of Consumer Banking, Bank of Ireland UK, said:

"Bank of Ireland is proud to be working in partnership with Parenting NI on a number of initiatives including this 'Working Dads' session.

Being a father of four, I completely understand the challenges facing dads and families today. A session like this provides an ideal opportunity for peers to come together to acknowledge and talk about common work life balance challenges and hopefully go home with some practical tips that we can all apply in our own lives."

Following on from the success of a previous event for working mums, this event exclusively organised for working dads, is the first of its kind.

Media Enquiries

Contact Emma Lyttle, Communications Officer at Parenting NI on 028 9031 0891 or email.

Parenting NI Support YMCA and NHS “#IamWhole” Campaign for Mental Health

Parenting NI supports YMCA and the NHS in their “I am whole” campaign, aimed to highlight the importance of World Mental Health day.

Muriel Bailey, Director for Family Support Services at Parenting NI said,

“Every single day we deal with parents who are suffering mental ill health, or whose children are suffering.

“Depression, anxiety and other serious issues affect thousands of families every single day. Therefore, we were excited to support the YMCA and the NHS in the “I am Whole” campaign. This campaign to lift the stigma relating to mental health is so important.

“There is still a stigma about accessing help when you are suffering a mental health issue. We are glad to help to fight that stigma by saying that it is okay to not feel ok.

“If you are a parent, or anyone in a parenting role, and you are concerned about your or someone you care for’s mental health, please don’t be afraid to call us on 0808 8010 722.”

Media Enquiries

Contact Emma Lyttle, Communications Officer at Parenting NI on 028 9031 0891 or email.

Parenting NI Welcomes Lord Justice Gillen’s Review of Family Justice

Parenting NI responds to Lord Justice Gillen’s review of civil and family justice, delivered at the Royal Court in Belfast.

Charlene Brooks, CEO of Parenting NI said,

“Parenting NI wholeheartedly welcomes the Lord Justice’s timely review of family justice. Obviously, this was a wide-ranging and detailed review but what is clear is the desperate need for reform of family justice.

The encouragement of mediation for separated parents as well as the general desire to avoid confrontational legal battles is to be welcomed. Parents have told us every day about the devastating effects such difficult proceedings have on themselves and on their children.

The recognition by the Lord Justice that the best way to ensure the safety and best interests of children are met is by supporting parents is heartening.

Regardless of the current political deadlock, I am calling on those in places of power to ensure this review does not sit collecting dust on a shelf. It needs to be implemented as soon as is practical to make an immediate impact on the lives of families.”

Media Enquiries

Contact Emma Lyttle, Communications Officer at Parenting NI on 028 9031 0891 or email.

More Needs to be done to Support Parents in Meeting School Costs

Parenting NI responds to the NICCY consultation outlining the costs to parents of sending children to school.

Muriel Bailey, Director for Family Support Services at Parenting NI said,

“The results of this consultation are worrying – but are sadly not surprising to Parenting NI. The issue of cost has come up time and time again in our own consultations with parents. When asked what the single biggest issue with Northern Ireland’s education system, more than 1 in 10 parents singled out cost.

The fact that most parents are required to pay over £1000, per child per year puts enormous stress on families in Northern Ireland. This is particularly worrying when this is considered in the context of the recently announced cuts to the per-pupil payment to schools, as well as the recent proposed cut to the uniform grant that was narrowly avoided.

In addition to this, the regional differences, where parents in the west are expected to effectively pay a £184 premium compared to parents in Belfast highlights a need for an urgent, balanced and reason-based solution.

There is increasing pressure on parents and on schools to provide the basic necessities needed to attend school. Given the fact that education is meant to be free to access, more simply must be done to support parents who are struggling.

It is self-evident that the simplest and most effective solution would be a locally-elected and locally accountable education minister. Every day of delay simply postpones necessary change. It is for that reason that Parenting NI, speaking on behalf of parents across Northern Ireland, is asking that all political parties come together to address this as a matter of urgency.”

Media Enquiries

Contact Emma Lyttle, Communications Officer at Parenting NI on 028 9031 0891 or email.

The Importance of Spending Time Together

The fast pace of modern day family life can make it easy to forget that simply just spending time with our children is really important. Our time is one of the greatest things we can give them. Summer time offers lots of opportunities to spend time together and some good old family bonding! Here’s why you should make quality time a priority:

It builds children’s self-esteem

Children who spend time with their parents participating in activities together build a positive sense of self-worth. When children feel that they are valued by their parents, they feel more positive about themselves. Family activities don’t have to be expensive trips out to be meaningful, the important part is just being together. You could go for a bike ride or play a game together.

It strengthens family bonds

Families who share everyday activities together form strong, emotional ties. Studies have found that families who enjoy group activities together share a stronger emotional bond as well as an ability to adapt well to situations as a family. Share your favorite hobbies, sports, books, movies or other favorite activities.

It develops positive behaviours

Children and adolescents who spend more time with their parents are less likely to get involved in risky behaviour. According to studies done by the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse via Arizona State University, teens who have infrequent family dinners are twice as likely to use tobacco, nearly twice as likely to use alcohol and one and a half times more likely to use marijuana.

Children who frequently eat with their families also usually have improved dietary intake compared to those who don’t eat as often with family members.

It encourages communication

When you spend time with your children you are fostering an environment for open communication. Good communication is important for your children to feel comfortable with talking to about anything. Simply asking your child how their day ask gone can make a big difference.

It can help your child’s academic performance

Spending time helping your children with schoolwork or reading together, especially in their early years, will foster an environment that values academics. If your child feels comfortable coming to you with schoolwork, they are more likely to perform better academically.

It can help your children be a good friend

Children learn by example. If you are setting a good example for them by spending quality time together, they are more likely to adopt those behaviours in other relationships in their lives. Simple things like playing games together will help them understand more about interacting with others as well as teach them things like sharing and kindness.

Most importantly, family time means you can just have fun and enjoy each others company! You’ve still got a little bit of time left before the children go back to school so make the most of it this weekend and do something together.

Book Lovers Day: The Benefits of Reading with Your Child

The 9th August is National Book Lovers Day and bibliophiles all over the world are sharing their adoration online for all things books.

So, to mark the occasion we thought it might be a nice time to remind you all of the benefits of reading with your child.

It is never too early to start reading to your child.  Even very young babies enjoy the sound of their parents / carers voice when being spoken to, sang to or read to. Talking to, singing / nursery rhymes and reading to your child are all important factors in helping children become more aware of sounds and words than in learning to read.

Did you know?

Reading to your child can help them develop:

  • good language skills
  • a love of books
  • skills to communicate
  • listening skills
  • imagination
  • curiosity

Reading and sharing books with your child:

  • enhances relationships and bonding between parent and child.
  • promotes interaction and special time between parent and child.
  • establishes a good foundation for your child in learning to read and write.

Tips while reading to your child:

  • Be familiar with the story
  • Sit comfortably so both can see the book
  • Make it sound interesting
  • Encourage child to turn the pages
  • Point and Talk about the pictures
  • Use this time for a cuddle
  • Use props
  • Children love to hear and look at books over and over again

Remember, you’re your child’s favourite story teller! Reading together is fun so let your child pick the book and enjoy a bedtime story together tonight.