What is Self-Esteem?
Self-esteem is how we think and feel about ourselves. Having healthy self-esteem means being comfortable with how we look and how we feel. It means feeling good about ourselves, our abilities and our thoughts.
Self-esteem is made up of all the experiences and relationships we have in our lives. For children and young people, building self-esteem is an ongoing process and starts early. Their self-esteem and confidence can go up and down depending on the situations they are in. For example, you might have a child that is really outgoing outside of school but really quiet and shy in class.
Parents and carers have a role to play in helping children and young people develop healthy self-esteem.
Why is healthy self-esteem particularly important for children and young people?
Young people with low self-esteem can find it very hard to cope with pressures from school, peers and society. The teenage, and increasingly pre-teen years can be very stressful as youngsters are expected to achieve good grades, look a certain way and be successful or popular. Children and young people with low self-esteem are more at risk of developing depression, anxiety, self-harming and other mental health problems as they grow up, and will often find the ups and downs of life in general harder to get through.
Most children and young people will have dips in self-esteem as they go through different stages and challenges. Starting or changing school, moving house, changes in the family can all affect a child’s self-esteem but with support they can get through this.
What does healthy self-esteem look like?
Children and young people with high self-esteem:
- Have a positive view of themselves
- Make friends easily and adapt to new situations
- Can play on their own or in groups
- Will try to work things out for themselves but are willing to ask if unsure
- Can be proud of their achievements
- Can admits their mistakes and learn from them
- Are willing to try new things and adapt to change